Les Chroniques de Candy

I stumbled across this article and I was rather scandalised about it all,  and about people agreeing to it. Since I cannot seem to reply through the same page that it has been published, I thought of using the infamous blog of my infamous friend to express my local point of view, which comes after the screenshots...

Hello All…

So this is in reply to the text about hypocrisy in the gay community. First of all, I would like to point out something : all that the author has stated are facts, and hence, in theory, are true. The only thing that is bothering me in the text is the analysis of some of these facts.

As the author stated himself, he has been warned. So, “pas dire pane dir”. Warned by whom? Obviously by people who have a higher level - call it standards - than the mass the author is referring to. Call this discriminative, racist or whatever pejorative yet politically correct adjective, but society at large is constructed like this. Be it with the gays, the heteros, the adults, the children etc. More than standards, this has to do with social class also - I’m not judging here, I’m reverting back to an ageless sociological concept on which History is built. 

“Birds of the same feathers flock together”. By flocking with a certain group, the author has judged and categorised himself, leaving no place for external judgement. If you expect not to be judged by gays or everyone else for going, say, fornicate in the toilets of La Gare Victoria, well… you’re really, like in really really, naive. It’s almost comparable to going out in public wearing last season’s woollen pull over in summer and not expecting people think you are out of your mind. Of course you can do whatever with your life, since it’s yours. But having an opinion about someone based on the people he goes along with and what he does and his actions is not called judging. IT’s called… well, it’s called having an opinion. 

Anyway, be it in Europe, Asia, or Africa, the situation is similar. An example to illustrate this? Myself. While in Paris, to finance my studies, I was working in a club doing shows. Hence, I was a public figure. And people talked there also. Wherever I went, whatever I did with whoever, all were related to me by various people, both known and unknown to me,  when I met them again in the club. Gay communities are minorities everywhere, and people tend to focus on you all the more  when you stand out among a minority. 

As I said above, like every group, the gay community has division in terms of class and standards. Being a european hanging with a certain level of the gay community who opens his Facebook, Grindr, Romeo, door and other things including legs, in Mauritius, it’s like a new collector Lady Gaga Deluxe DVD to the chic gays. Something to show off. I am not judging the author or the unassumed gays, i’m just exposing how things work here, whether people like it or not. 

Let’s get back to our island. As opposed to Paris, for example, our island is a small one. Since in a big city, people relate things and talk, how can one expect it to be different here? Of course it can be only worse, since every single gay knows the other one, directly or indirectly. Talks among friends, chit chats among lovers and so on. Can that be qualified as gossiping? Maybe, maybe not. 

Mauritius, as it is sold, is a multi cultural, multi religious and multi racial. True. Add to that the fact that the population is of a very diverse age group and answer this : can one expect everyone to think alike in this case? Of course not. Coming from a more open society, I can grasp that the author might have some difficulties to agree to everything here. But hey, our culture is different. While there are more and more gays who assume themselves with pictures on dating sites and the majority of their family knowing about their orientation, one cannot just hit upon them for having deep rooted cultural values - family, prayers, selection of people to whom one talks… The last fact is quite a big issue, it seems. And has every reason to be. All of the gays I know are those who are not married, have no children and have their pictures on websites. How can one expect birds of these feathers to flock with the ones who are a ‘disgrace’ to the community, as the author wants us to understand if we read between his lines? Those, in my knowledge, do not like being seen with fully assumed and public gays. And usually, the gossip spring from there, since the assumed ones, those who are vowed to non marriage with the opposite sex and live up to it, have other things like Madonna, Lady Gaga, Chanel, Marni, Manicure, Haircuts and Politic in Russia. 

Mind you, like the author, I am NOT judging the fake and photo-less and married and parent gay profiles. I know about family pressure in some regions and communities. Those who do get married are as i stated above - they have family values, and to them, as to me, it is inconceivable to live without the support of family members, even though I’m not the hiding type. Blame them because they have a different upbringing from you if you wish, but please, don’t judge our culture and values, and stop gossiping about them. 

So bottom line is : ‘Si ou pas fer vilain, pas ti pou ena palab’ and ‘Il n’y a pas de fumée sans feu’. Sort out your life out, hang out with the gossip-less kind, broaden your mind out of your ‘gay centred vision’ and out of your traditional european way of living. Adapt to here and hey, you’ll be as happy as my friends and me all the while being gay!